I've deleted my previous post.
The character in my mind when I said "not whole" was missing a portion of a leg so the term, to me, was accurate in a physical sense and not meant to imply that such a character was not a whole person with feelings, relationships, and all the sum parts of a fulfilling life--which the character does also have. A good friend of mine has the same disability and I have talked with him many many times about it, as a source for the research.
That said, after re-reading the post with an eye for what others, as your replies pointed out, found offensive, I do see my errors and how my words could be, and sadly were, taken badly. I hope that you would all understand that I would never seek to belittle anyone. I truly did not intend to offend anyone and I sincerely apologize.