Saturday, December 17, 2011

Gasp! What Do You Mean My Mother Will Read That?


By Kerry Schafer

The topic for this week - how do you feel about your parents reading your sexy scenes - was purely theoretical when the week began. I read Jeffe's post on Sunday, comfortably contemplating the fact that since I have no books published, nobody is reading anything unless I hand it over. Since I had no intention of handing over drafts of sexy scenes to my mother, the problem was distant, classed with thoughts like "someday I'm going to die." Yep. Sooner or later. Not today. Nothing to be done about it, no need to worry.

On Wednesday, things changed dramatically. I accepted representation by the fabulous Deidre Knight of the Knight Agency, and that changed my perspective dramatically. (You can read the story here, if you wish.)

All at once, the idea of a published book is something within reach. I have an agent who believes in the book, and that we can get it published. This once theoretical idea of my mother reading my sex scenes is real and in my face like a hungry cat on Saturday morning. If the book is published, people will read it. Maybe (hopefully) lots of people. My mother. And all of her church friends. My own teenage children. My co-workers, potentially my clients, and maybe my old high school friends.

Cue panic.

Let me be clear that I am not prudish, just private. I love to read a book with good sex scenes, and writing sex is easy enough for me, but the idea that somebody, particularly my mother, is going to read it? Alarming.

All I can say is, I'd better get over it. I'll warn my mom, and I honestly think she'll handle it fine. The kids? That one is a little worse. Kids don't like to know that their parents even think about sex, let alone read what they've written about it. Again, I'll warn them, and then they are on their own. Old enough to make their own decisions.

I guess when it comes to writing sex scenes it's like writing anything else. Get it on the page, make sure it belongs there. What happens after that is between the words and the reader.

10 comments:

  1. This post is awesome! Too fun! Congratulations on your new agent! smiles...

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  2. Congratulations on getting representation! That's totally awesome. =o)

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  3. You'll get used to it pretty quickly - being read is one of the most fun parts. Congrats!

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  4. Thanks Christi!

    B.E. - it still feels unreal, like a very good dream

    Jeffe - well, if my mom complains about the sex in my book, I'll give her one of yours to read, lol. Comparative value and all. : )

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  5. Thank you, cuttlefish. I'm very excited.

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  6. "What happens after that is between the words and the reader."

    By then, you'll be working on book three...four...five...

    Congrats, Kerry!

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  7. Um, yeah. That's one I have no idea about, having (yes, it's true) never written a sex scene. Sure, I've had sex, read about sex, seen sex - but never written about sex. Not sure What I'll do about that one when the time comes (Not my fault, I was raised Lutheran).

    Thanks for this, Kerry

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  8. KAK - book three, four, five - gulp. Um, yeah. No pressure or anything, lol. And thank you!!

    John - I hear you. I grew up Adventist. I tend not to throw in any gratuitous sex. Just put it where it belongs, and if it furthers the plot or character development.

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  9. "If the book is published, people will read it. Maybe (hopefully) lots of people. My mother. And all of her church friends. My own teenage children. My co-workers, potentially my clients, and maybe my old high school friends.

    Cue panic."

    --So right on! Hopefully they will all be cool about it...and not show up to protest on your lawn with pitchforks and torches. hahahahaa

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